Parenting is a new skill that your sims can develop that came with The Sims 4: Parenthood game pack. The purpose of this skill is to give your adult sims more options when raising their children and more influence over who they become as adults.

This new skill tries to give you the chance to experience really parenting your sims and you can see actual changes in their personalities and the things they do when they’re set to be autonomous.

It’s going to take a bit of time and a lot of hard work, but disciplining and praising your children can make them grow into really awesome adult sims.

How to Gain The Parenting Skill

The parenting skill is only available to young adults or older and cannot be learned by teens in the game, as there are a few non-child related options for gaining the parenting skill, including reading parenting forums on the computer or reading parenting books that you can purchase.

Most interactions with your children will increase your parenting skill however, just having a conversation with your child will not do much. The most valuable interactions are punishing or encouraging for behaviours, participating in finishing school projects, helping with homework, etc.

You can also purchase a parenting book before your child is born so you can start to prepare your parenting skill in advance so you can have more control over your child’s life.

Parenting Skill Levels

Parenting Skill Level 1

When you first start gaining the parenting skill you are given the ability to encourage your children’s behaviours and ask them not to do things or yell at them to stop doing certain bad behaviours.

Parenting Skill Level 2

When you get to parenting level 2 your sim can now use
firmly tell not to do” when your young sims do bad things (i.e., painting on the floor). You’ll be given the ability to influence your sims to do their homework, which can be helpful if they don’t do it on their own. And you are also shown a few new options when teaching moments pop up.

Parenting Skill Level 3

At parenting level 3 your sims can now give other sims parenting tips as a friendly interaction, and also help their own children solve motives.

Parenting Skill Level 4

At level 4 of the parenting skill you can start giving your kids and teens a time out for bad behaviour and you’ll also get a new option during teaching moments to see what character values will go up or down during teaching moments.

Parenting Skill Level 5

The best part about reaching level 5 of the parenting skill is that you can now ground children and teens as punishment for painting on the floor or staying out late or doing anything else you might not like. You can also now discuss your children’s bad behaviour with them to help them understand what they’re doing wrong and hug it out when things aren’t going great.

Parenting Skill Level 6

When you hit level 6 of the parenting skill you can now have the option to “find out what is wrong” with your baby sims, meaning you’ll see a bubble above them with exactly what they need so you can solve that need quickly. You also gain the interaction to make other parents feel better.

Parenting Skill Level 7

At the 7th level of the parenting skill you’ll see a higher success rate when you’re trying to influence your offspring to do things. You will also see higher success rate when trying to help your children solve their motives.

Parenting Skill Level 8

When you hit level 8 of the parenting skill you will have much higher success when you’re disciplining your toddlers, children, and teens which can be extremely helpful. You also will be shown a 3rd option during teaching moments.

Parenting Skill Level 9

When your adult sim gets to the 9th level of the parenting skill you’ll be able to see the total impact of all options in teaching moments which can help you guide your children in the right direction. Also, your “influence to” interactions will succeed every single time.

Parenting Skill Level 10

When your adult sim hits level 10 of the parenting skill, you get the ability to go into “Full Parent Mode“. This means that when your sims do a ton of parenting interactions in a row, their needs start decreasing slower so they can take care of their little ones.

You also get to use “Super Efficient Baby Care” which means that with one click you can take care of all your babies needs at one time without having to click on different interactions.

Teaching Moments

A great way to increase your sim’s character values and really test your parenting is to respond to things called teaching moments. These are a pop-up that will appear in game that will let you choose a solution to a situation that your child is experiencing.

When you have a lower parenting skill you won’t have very many good options to choose from but as you grow your skill your options will increase. Although a lot of the solutions seem to be okay, there is never a perfect choice and most of them have a bit of a negative outcome.

When you choose an option your child sim will gain a bit of one character value but will lose a little bit of another value. As you grow your parenting skill you’ll be shown exactly which character values will be impacted by a certain decision, meaning you can knowingly steer your children in one direction or another.

Character Values

When raising sims using The Sims 4: Parenthood, you will have different character values that will influence your child’s future behaviour as they grow up. These are available to see in your Sim’s personality panel right above where you’d see their traits.

The way you raise your sim children will influence these 5 values and the younger your sim the more intense the moves in their character values will be. When your child becomes a young adult, these character values will turn into new traits that can influence their personality.

There are 5 different character values that your sim can gain that include manners, emotional control, responsibility, empathy, and conflict resolution.


Your sims can increase their manners if they clean up dirty dishes that are around the house, and set the dinner table (which looks so cute!) and you can increase it if you parent teaches you how to say please or thank you. Your child’s manners will see a strong decrease if they do things like burping or farting or going up to strangers and doing a rude greet.

Emotional Control

Your children can increase their emotional control by dealing with their negative emotions. For example, an angry child can go take an angry poop to deal with their emotions. If your sim breaks things and continues to be angry and acts on their bad emotions they will decrease their emotional control.


Your child sims can gain the responsibility value by going to school each day, doing their own homework, or going to work when they’re a teenager. If your child starts going to school or not doing their homework their responsibility will decrease.


If you want to increase your sim’s empathy you can purchase the doctor’s kit toy to increase it easily as a child. You can also volunteer your time using your phone as a family. Doing any mean interactions can quickly decrease your empathy.

Conflict Resolution

Your sim’s conflict resolution can be increased if they deal with their negative emotions in a healthier way and don’t throw temper tantrums as they used to as toddlers. You can increase this by apologizing when they do something wrong, or helping other sims fix their negative relationships. If your sims argue with their family members or other sims or get into fights their conflict resolution will go down.

Parenting Success

If you really want to succeed as a parent, there are a couple things you should remember to keep your sims parenting efforts at a high success rate. If your parent is experiencing a negative emotion like tense, embarassed, or angry, they will have a harder time getting their parenting efforts to stick.

It’s also extremely important to make sure your sim has a great relationship with their children if you want the parenting to go well. Having a child who absolutely can’t stand you isn’t the best way to get your child to listen to you.

Becoming a Super Parent

Since the parenting skill came with The Sims 4: Parenthood, we should also discuss the new super parent aspiration that came along with that and is heavily focused around the parenting skill.

Most of the aspiration is quite easy, but you do need to raise a child who has 3 positive character values (i.e., responsibility, manners, empathy, etc). You should be able to finish this aspiration even if you only have one child.

The super parent aspiration gives you the reward trait of being a role model helps you increase positive character values for your children and will make it a whole lot easier for any subsequent children to get positive character value traits.

If you complete this aspiration you’ll be able to gain over 5,000 satisfaction points.

Super Parent Aspiration Breakdown

1. Readily a Parent

  • Become an Adult
  • Spend $1,000 on Kid’s Stuff

2. Offspring Instructor

  • Become a Parent
  • Achieve Level 4 Parenting Skill
  • Discipline Your Child, Toddler, or Teen 5 Times

3. Character Coach

  • Help a Child With School Work for 4 Hours
  • Achieve Level 6 Parenting Skill
  • Have a Child With a Character Value within Range to Receive a Trait

4. Super Parent

  • Achieve Level 10 Parenting Skill
  • Go into Full Parent Mode
  • Have a Child with 3 Positive Character Value Traits

Final Thoughts

Gaining the parenting skill in the sims 4 is an awesome way to change your child’s personality in a positive way and can be a really fun trait to increase for your sim. Happy Parenting!